I'm a grumpy old man trapped in a 21 year old girl's body. Wow.
March 9, 2014
Most guys do not have to deal with the world of women. They’re born from us, they live around us, but for the most part, we take care of our own shit. We buy our own tampons. We deal with skeevy guys who catcall us. We deal with crappier work situations. We deal with getting told we suck at things because we have a vagina, and that we need to be prettier.
Even when these guys married, they still married someone who dealt with this stuff solo. There might be stories and gripe sessions, but they tended to try to equate some part of their experience to the woman’s. Sure, you’re told to be beautiful, but I’m told to lift heavy things! Same, right?
Then, they had daughters.
Kids are very good at not dealing with their own shit. It’s not their job. It’s yours. Suddenly, you’re shoved into a toy aisle where there’s nary a Lego or car or building block, but instead, rows and rows of dead-eyed dolls. You realize how hard it is to find play clothes for a girl, because everything seems to be optimized for ‘cute’ rather than ‘comfort.’ You hear people compliment your daughter only on how pretty she is, and never on how smart or clever she is.
The girl goes to school, and you watch how she’s never called on. You hear someone insult someone else by calling them ‘a girl’, and it stings. Your little girl is awesome! She’s brave and smart and funny! Why would anyone use that as an insult? Then, you remember all the times you did it.
And then, you realize that, all along, you’ve been a part of the problem."
always appropriate and now timely. happy international Women’s day.
It’s one of those days where I would much rather stay hiding under the blankets all day than face the world and all the shit.
But that’s not an option.
I NEED FEMINISM BECAUSE WHEN A FEMALE MEMBER OF THE IRISH PARLIAMENT COMPLAINED SHE WAS A BIT COLD A MALE MEMBER LAUGHED AND SAID HE’D “WARM HER UP” AND PULLED HER ONTO HIS LAP
WHILE UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ALCOHOL
IN THE PARLIAMENT CHAMBERS
WHILE THE OTHER MALE MEMBERS JUST STOOD AROUND WATCHING AND LAUGHING
IN THE MIDDLE OF A DEBATE ON THE REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS OF WOMEN*
IF YOU DON’T THINK IRELAND HAS A MAJOR SEXISM PROBLEM YOU’RE SERIOUSLY WRONG
"Peace to sky. Sky to earth. Earth under sky, strength in each, a
cup full, full of honey, mead in plenty. Summer in winter, spear over shield, shield
over fist. Fort of spears; a battle-cry, land for sheep, bountiful forests
mountains forever, magic enclosure. Mast on branches, branches heavy, heavy with fruit,
wealth for a son, a gifted son, strong neck of bull, a bull for a poem, a knot on
a tree, wood for fire. Fire from stone. Stone from earth, wealth from cows, belly of
the Brú. Doe cries from mist, stream of deer after spring, corn in autumn, upheld by peace. Warrior band
for the land, prosperous land to the shore. From wooded headlands, waters rushing, “What news
have you?” Peace to the sky, life and land everlasting. Peace."
- Badb’s Prophecy
Negative relationships affect your healthy, physically and mentally.
Last semester I was sick a lot. Now my immunity was fucked due to Mono. But I was generally unwell.
Now after 4 years of having quit smoking, this semester I’ve had the worst stress urges for cigarettes I’ve ever had. I don’t even think I’ve craved this bad when I did smoke.
Mental strength means a lot. And I’m not going to cave in just because I’m stressed and I have a less than desireable living situation.
Don’t let others knock you down. You’ve come far.
And I hope that when anyone who knows me, that I care about, feels weak, depleted, they can trust me and come to me.
I want everyone to be happy and healthy. Don’t let negative relationships pull you down.
I can get back to studying
Dana Gluckstein - Bhutan Dancers