Because being a good older sibling doesn’t mean being cool and letting them get away with stuff all the time. You need to look out for them when they do something really stupid. And when that time comes, make sure they understand that the consequences they face are a direct result of their actions.
Even if it hearts that they call you a snitch, a liar, or that you’re “the worst big sister ever”.
Because, despite what they think, we are not out to get them. We are not attacking everything they do just for the fun of it. We’re teaching them to take responsibility for actions that we tried to prevent them doing in the first place.
I hate being the only responsible child in my family. And I hate feeling like my siblings hate me no matter what I try to do to help them.
As of late, Proto-Celtic mythology. Very much like Kyler from The Haunting of Castle Malloy, I have also recently become more interested in my Irish roots. I like looking into cultures.
But this then led to looking into mythology. To looking into jewelery. Google the word celtic and you get a whole poop ton of trinity knot earrings.
But then that led to me looking at my Claddagh ring and re researching the story behind Claddagh rings (although I’m already very familiar with this) and that led to looking at celtic designed engagement rings. But that gets me thinking. What separates the engagement ring section from the general ring section of jewelery websites.
A lot of engagement rings I have seen are too bulky or two thick for my tastes. I don’t see the point of getting a ring with a bulbous rock on it that will just get in my way. Don’t get me wrong, I love jewelery, rings especially. And I have a few that have some big hoopla to them.
But a wedding ring you don’t take off. You can take it off to sleep or shower, but you wear it throughout the day. It’s always present. And then some do the big diamond for the engagement ring and a plain band for the wedding ring. But that means you’re shelling out a ton of money on 2 rings, when you’ll only really wear one.
I don’t find diamond rings personal. Diamonds may be a girl’s best friend, but I don’t think I can work diamonds. Too clean cut and all I’ll be thinking about is how it’s just compressed carbon and if you put it in the oven it just becomes graphite.
I would rather get a bunch of little rings. Like those stackable ones. Those would be nice. They’re small and they’re customizable. You make them yours.
And that means you can have a little band for the engagement ring, and a little band added on at the wedding. Maybe one that said Mo Anam Cara. Because I like the idea of soulmates, and I think that should be addressed when you’re married.
But wedding accoutrements have always confused me. Even younger I just didn’t understand why these were rules (Because when I asked, I was just told that’s how it works. Those are the rules)
But there aren’t one set of rules. For example, some husbands have a band but my father never got a wedding band. He doesn’t wear rings. Can men do engagement rings? I once met someone who didn’t get a wedding ring, but a necklace instead.
There just isn’t proper explanation on jewelery and it’s symbolism to relationships. Someone should write a manual so I can understand where this started and why its done and whether or not its okay to do things a certain way.
Of course I understand that there really are no rules and you can basically do whatever you want. But still, my head struggles to wrap around it.
Let her know I’ve made sure my siblings got up and ready for the day. And that the dog has been walked. And that I’ve cleaned the kitchen.
“Erin. You’re exhausted. Just go to sleep. Take a nap or something. Have you been up since 5 or 6?”
HOW DID SHE KNOW!?
Le sigh. So much fun.
I’m not gonna post them, though. Too personal.
But I did have 1 list of lifetime movies I wanted to snicker at.